tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17077521881121310542024-03-09T00:02:17.108+08:00妲己工作室Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger82125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-10509998369183078302011-03-02T21:32:00.001+08:002011-03-02T21:32:12.310+08:00卸下"輕如羽重如山"的成功<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'><p>的確,通常我們設立的目標,往往在潛意識中成了"<wbr/>一生追逐的夢想",似乎這輩子就為該目標而奮鬥。<wbr/>最常見的三個演變路徑,一是目標被淡忘或遺棄,<wbr/>另一是方法錯了或命運乖離,窮盡心力卻徒勞無功,最後抱憾而終。<wbr/>這算是最苦命的。<br/><br/>第三個是目標達成後,因沉醉或大頭症而失去心思意識的平衡。<wbr/>這樣的樣版,不但屢見不鮮,亦是人性盲點的捉弄。<br/><br/>孫中山先生說得好: 人生以服務為目的。<wbr/>以抱著不斷地服務人群為基礎心態並從中體驗快樂感、<wbr/>成就感與幸福,或許可以卸下"到底何謂成功人生"的迷思吧。</p>參考來源: <p><blockquote>"「成功」,在被提及的瞬間,就已經陳腐。由於經營環境時時刻刻在發生變化,一味地仿效別人的思路和方法,或者是全權委託他人的那種自己不動腦子的做法,是絕對不可能取得成功的。而對自己或他人一些過去的成功做法的複製,也是全然沒有意義的。"<br/>- <a href='http://www.cw.com.tw/article/index.jsp?id=42990'>天下雜誌 - 《成功一日可丟棄》拋棄成功 名人讀書會</a> (<a href='http://www.google.com/sidewiki/entry/117150060267288877078/id/3IcDS7tBmBK09AuE_3LezFnNBhk'>在「Google 網頁註解」中檢視</a>)</blockquote></p></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-88581219830676417502011-01-26T21:56:00.001+08:002011-01-26T22:03:15.149+08:00東四命與西四命的吉位方東四命與西四命的推算方式:<br />
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以農曆為分界時間點,但用分界後之西元出生年後兩數字相加,<br />
重複加到成為單數為止,所得個位數字:<br />
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男生: 用10減去,即是您的卦命。<br />
女生: 用5相加,再加至個位數,即是卦命。<br />
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例如: 出生為1975年,男生,7+5=12,1+2=3,10-3=7,即是卦命7。<br />
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若您是國曆一、二月生,要注意您農曆所屬生肖的歸屬西元年份喔。<br />
例如,您是今天出生,但現在仍未到兔年,故要用2010來計算。 <br />
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東四命: 卦命1、3、4、9 =====> 朝東、東南、南、北方皆是東四命的吉方位。<br />
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西四命: 卦命2、5、6、7、8 ==> 朝東北、西北、西、西南方皆是西四命的吉方位。<br />
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東四命 & 西四命的吉位方圖表:<br />
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font-size: 14pt;">【聯合報</span></span><span style="color: dimgrey; font-family: 細明體; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: dimgrey; font-size: 14pt;">╱</span></span><span style="color: dimgrey; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: dimgrey; font-size: 14pt;">王文華】</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 新細明體; font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt;"></span></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><b><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: bold;">十二月,是朋友們相聚的季節。我總是在這個月,算自己情感的帳。<wbr></wbr>算今年講了多少次:嘿,好久不見!最近好嗎?</span></span></b><b><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: bold;">……</span></span></b><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><b><span style="color: #0074ad; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #0074ad; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: bold;">偷來的時光</span></span></b><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">他們說,</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">85</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">度是咖啡最好喝的溫度。我說,</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">58</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">度是友情最香醇的<wbr></wbr>濃度。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">十二月一個禮拜一下午,大陸冷氣團南下。整理家裡,<wbr></wbr>發現兩瓶金門高粱。標籤上寫著「</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">58</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">度」,我想起「晚來天欲雪,<wbr></wbr>能飲一杯無」。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">拿起手機,開始約朋友。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">朋友分好幾類:一起爬山的、一起看戲的、一起旅行的、<wbr></wbr>一起把妹的。我不會約看戲的一起出去把妹,<wbr></wbr>因為他們都習慣坐在那裡不動。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">幾類朋友中,沒有酒友這一類。這年紀找到一起有高血壓的朋友,<wbr></wbr>比找到一起喝高粱的容易。於是挑了最熟的幾個,發簡訊給他們。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">「今晚六到八點可有興致小聚?我有一瓶高粱。」</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">這簡訊其實很失禮。星期一大家都忙,誰六點有空?六點的聚會,<wbr></wbr>怎麼到了下午才邀約?更扯的是主人自己八點要走,還好意思張羅?</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">本來不期待有任何回應,但立刻就有人答應了。原來大家都寂寞,<wbr></wbr>都在等那個「失禮」的人來發起。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">五位朋友喝到八點,一瓶才喝了四分之一。我起身:「<wbr></wbr>抱歉我待會還有事,你們繼續聊。」沒想到大家都如釋重負,<wbr></wbr>跟著我走。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">散場前我們在高粱瓶上簽下各自的姓名,相約下次寒流再聚。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">出了餐廳我跟朋友抱歉早走,他卻偷笑說:「<wbr></wbr>還好你簡訊中有說只到八點,否則我就不來了。」</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">朋友們在酒池肉林中走過一圈,知道徹夜狂歡的</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">party</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">很多,<wbr></wbr>餘韻無窮的聚會很少。喝到失態很容易,喝到想念太太很難。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">八點,正是見好就收的時間。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">就這樣,在今年第一波大陸冷氣團,我偷到兩小時的溫暖。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><b><span style="color: #0074ad; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #0074ad; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: bold;">感動容易、行動難</span></span></b><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">十二月,是朋友們相聚的季節。我總是在這個月,算自己情感的帳。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">算今年講了多少次「嘿,好久不見!最近好嗎?找一天一起吃飯,<wbr></wbr>聚一聚」,然後沒有下文?</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">算今年拿了多少名片,交換名片的當下熱情洋溢,<wbr></wbr>幾天後連名片主人的臉都想不起來?</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">算自己發了多少封給一大票人的簡訊和</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">e-mail</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">,<wbr></wbr>發的時候根本不知道收件者有誰?</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">算今年「臉書」上累積了多少朋友,噗浪上</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Karma</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">值有多高,<wbr></wbr>可是當臨時要撂人喝高粱,不知道可以邀誰?</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">算今年聽到並發誓過多少次「珍惜所有,不要視為理所當然」、「<wbr></wbr>人生無常,要活在當下」,但覺悟了兩天後,<wbr></wbr>又開始為名利張牙舞爪?</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">這樣一算,我發現:相識容易、維持難;感動容易、行動難。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">我們總是為了要「建立人脈」,認識一大堆新朋友,<wbr></wbr>但後來並沒有心思去維持那些關係。最後那些「人脈」就像動脈,<wbr></wbr>慢慢硬化。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">我們也因為一時感動,立下了誓言和心願。但那些心願的強度,<wbr></wbr>就像許願的蠟燭,一陣風,就沒有了。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">那些感動可能來自於事業挫敗、朋友猝逝、家人生病,或《<wbr></wbr>陪你到最後》那部電影。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">但感動很難化成持久的行動,很多時候,我們想要的愛、<wbr></wbr>想過的生活、想追求的夢想,以及其他一切想改變現狀的意念,</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">都只是某個特定的場合、氣氛和流行的產物。一旦朋友下葬、<wbr></wbr>電影散場、流行話題和特定氛圍過去了,我們的行動力也沒了。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><b><span style="color: #0074ad; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #0074ad; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: bold;">不強求,但要做球</span></span></b><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">這樣說來,沒有行動力似乎不好,其實未必。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">事業上太劍及履及,有時造成天下大亂。汲汲營營找人吃飯,<wbr></wbr>會給對方帶來壓力。理想的方式,是順其自然,但偶爾製造驚喜。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;">順其自然,不但要順自己的自然,也順別人的自然。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;">很多時候我們感嘆「人情冷暖」,是只想到了自己的狀態。<wbr></wbr>我失意了,沒有人關心我,這世界真冷漠!</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;">但別人怎麼知道你失意?別人失意時你也未必知道或關心!</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;">就算別人知道也關心,但別人的生活有很多更緊急的事你不知道,<wbr></wbr>不該期待別人放下那些事來關心你。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;">人情沒有冷暖,人情一直是這樣。事實上,你得意<span style="color: #414141;"><span style="color: #414141;">時身旁的熙來攘往<wbr></wbr>,也不是「暖」,那只是反應了人們喜歡湊熱鬧的天性。</span></span></span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">現在熱鬧沒了,大夥散了,不是變「冷」,只是恢復常態。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">每個人的一天有不同的行程,每個人的一生有不同的情節。到頭來,<wbr></wbr>行程和情節能搭配的,便成為好友。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">搭不到一起,不見得他或你冷漠,只是沒有緣分。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">高粱宴,我約了很多人,沒來的,比來的多。這並不表示沒來的就「<wbr></wbr>不夠意思」或「不給面子」,只是在那一個人生的點,我們搭不上。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">朋友之間很多煩惱,都是我們對自己的付出,有過多的期待;<wbr></wbr>而對別人的回應,有過度的猜想。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">很多失落感沒有必要,因為搭不上不是我們或對方故意的選擇,<wbr></wbr>只是機率上必然的擦肩而過。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">尊重別人的自然,但接住別人丟出來的驚喜。<wbr></wbr>一個周日早上我到陽明山爬山泡溫泉,擦乾身體那一剎那,<wbr></wbr>住在山上的朋友打電話約我到他家午餐。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">平常一小時的車程,此時走路五分鐘就到。我去了,那個下午,<wbr></wbr>比任何刻意的相約都愉快</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">但順其自然,不表示就不用心思。公司的尾牙,我喬了兩個禮拜。<wbr></wbr>運籌帷幄,只為了選一個大家都方便的時間。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">值不值得,值得。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">因為這一ㄊㄨㄚ的組合,這一生不會再有。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">事實上,這一路上任何組合,這一生都不會再有。所以難約的人,<wbr></wbr>就提早一個月約。遲到大王,就不要一直問「你在哪裡」。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">凡事不強求,但還是要做球。一切隨緣,<wbr></wbr>但邀請函和提醒信還是要各發一遍!</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><b><span style="color: #0074ad; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #0074ad; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: bold;">緣分像天氣</span></span></b><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><div style="line-height: 18pt;"><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">今年,幾個朋友離開了我,甚至離開了這世界。還在身邊的,<wbr></wbr>也經歷著大大小小的磨難。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">我猛然醒悟:認識一個人是這麼容易,但失去他也是如此突然。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">而在這年紀失去,不再是年少時朋友絕交或情人分手。<wbr></wbr>在這年紀失去,就是永遠失去了。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></div><span style="color: #414141; font-family: 新細明體; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">十二月,天氣冷冷熱熱。就像一路走來的朋友,分分合合。<wbr></wbr>緣分像天氣,我無法控制。只能天冷加衣,順勢而為。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">天熱時,就約朋友吃冰。天冷時,就拿出那瓶高粱。<wbr></wbr>大陸冷氣團南下,酒友團把寒意鎖在杯底。這</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">58</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">度的友情,<wbr></wbr>不太濃,也不太淡。</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #414141; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
</span></span><span style="color: #414141; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #414141; font-size: 11pt;">不會疏離,也不會造成負擔。友情像高粱,喝起來冰涼,喝完之後,<wbr></wbr>卻是如此溫暖。</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-33883772108987867892010-10-02T23:11:00.001+08:002010-10-03T00:11:21.333+08:00錢 vs 富<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a bitly="BITLY_PROCESSED" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/TKdLHB1IO3I/AAAAAAAAA-s/kT5jpNXO5K4/s1600/astronomy-500x500.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/TKdLHB1IO3I/AAAAAAAAA-s/kT5jpNXO5K4/s320/astronomy-500x500.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br />
錢<br />
就是 金 戈 戈<br />
戈是武器 名詞<br />
也是戰戈 動詞<br />
<br />
有錢且懂金錢遊戲的人 用錢滾錢 讓錢為之工作<br />
沒錢且為錢苦惱的人 則使勁地想著 拚著如何掙錢<br />
一場場金錢遊戲 戰戈<br />
贏家 通吃<br />
輸家 乾瞪眼<br />
<br />
富<br />
就是 寶蓋底下一口田<br />
農業時代 耕耘 照顧 收割這口田 是為餬口<br />
商業時代 經營的這口田 叫做專業或天分 是為更好的生活<br />
這專業或天分的一口田 讓你的金錢收入 可以源源不絕<br />
怎麼個源源不絕法<br />
就是 永遠花不完的十萬元<br />
<br />
當你擁有"永遠花不完的十萬元"的能耐時<br />
雖然比不上 有錢人那種的億來億去<br />
但 你肯定是個 富有的人<br />
<br />
另一種富<br />
一樣是寶蓋底下一口田<br />
這一口田 是你的興趣 嗜好 愛情 人際關係 家庭價值... 或是你的生活樂趣<br />
經營好這一口田 等於經營好自己的生活<br />
生活充實 也是個富有的人<br />
<br />
錢<br />
難免動干戈<br />
<br />
富<br />
純粹就是經營自己<br />
經營你心目中 寶蓋底下的那一口田Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-1957852320528752852010-10-02T15:17:00.003+08:002010-10-02T23:13:49.637+08:00癌症 vs 福報<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a bitly="BITLY_PROCESSED" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/TKdMDyoxHLI/AAAAAAAAA-w/AMwxhkVEFAw/s1600/01_ps.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="259" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/TKdMDyoxHLI/AAAAAAAAA-w/AMwxhkVEFAw/s320/01_ps.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div><br />
癌症 啟動人們恐懼的細胞<br />
<br />
恐懼於 剩下多少在世的時間<br />
恐懼於 還有什麼事沒做<br />
什麼話沒說<br />
什麼人能否再見一面...<br />
<br />
也恐懼於 死亡到底是什麼<br />
<br />
隨之而來 是後悔 還是懺悔<br />
要求神 還是問卜<br />
<br />
無法釋然 因為人生而為牽掛<br />
<br />
<br />
也許<br />
癌症 是開啟從渾噩之門走出來的鑰匙<br />
<br />
老死且壽終正寢 是人人希望的福報之一<br />
然而<br />
人活在世上 本已經有著太多的福報<br />
只是<br />
我們都視為理所當然 而了無珍惜<br />
<br />
癌症 對人們 與人們的家人 肯定是痛苦<br />
但卻是一堂認識生與死的入門課程<br />
也許更是 懂得福報的開端Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-11457188652250044972010-08-11T21:10:00.001+08:002010-08-11T21:10:25.614+08:00外遇<p><a href="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/TGKhPrUdg1I/AAAAAAAAA-Y/f83tXZ8arlM/s1600-h/27678-fullsize%5B3%5D.jpg"><img style="border-bottom: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px" title="27678-fullsize" border="0" alt="27678-fullsize" src="http://lh3.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/TGKhQLbIyjI/AAAAAAAAA-c/iLBT_w5NZXk/27678-fullsize_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="378" height="535" /></a> </p> <p><b>問</b></p> <p><b>外遇的人</b><b> <br /></b><b>不分男女</b><b> <br /></b><b>最大的壓力在哪裡</b><b> <br /></b><b>他們的快樂和不快樂的比例為何呢</b><b> <br /></b><b>什麼時候開始就會變質呢</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>答</b></p> <p><b>快不快樂的比例差距再大或再小你都不會快樂</b></p> <p><b>壓力再小仍是壓力</b></p> <p><b>外遇的人最明白外遇的不好在哪裡</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>不好在於……</b></p> <p><b>事情隨時可能爆發</b></p> <p><b>愛得越深就越怕自己和對方這次是來真的</b></p> <p><b>原本的冒險的遊戲眼看就要變成真實的負擔</b></p> <p><b>會不會決定認真後不久又後悔了</b></p> <p><b>畢竟法律不認可</b></p> <p><b>畢竟道德也不允許</b></p> <p><b>畢竟一但對方想要成立第二線名正言順</b></p> <p><b>有可能是因為不能佔有才那麼可貴</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>壓力是外遇的需求來源</b></p> <p><b>也可能是消除壓力的武器</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>很多妻子和丈夫一聽到另一半外遇</b></p> <p><b>第一想到的畫面通常是一片晃動</b></p> <p><b>怕被遺棄</b></p> <p><b>怕不在第一時間給對方定罪就會吃虧</b></p> <p><b>怕外面的妖禍奪走另一半的財與人</b></p> <p><b>怕孩子也</b><b>被剝奪</b></p> <p><b>怕生計大變</b></p> <p><b>怕不知如何面對外人眼光</b></p> <p><b>怕生活狀態改變</b></p> <p><b>怕東怕西怕南怕北的結果</b></p> <p><b>就成了眼前晃動的畫面</b></p> <p><b>如此複雜又如此不確定</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>外遇的人和被外遇的人都會被捲進這場風暴</b></p> <p><b>他們三人都會有各自的擔憂</b></p> <p><b>也各自有自己的生存之道</b></p> <p><b>一個是拿承諾在先為號召</b></p> <p><b>一個是拿真情在握為支撐</b></p> <p><b>殊不知不理會承諾  承諾就失去意義</b></p> <p><b>殊不知真情一褪色  握著就更顯諷刺</b></p> <p><b>而外遇的重疊者呢</b></p> <p><b>除了選邊站</b></p> <p><b>他(或她)還有什麼立場</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>當然一夫多妻一妻多夫也可以</b></p> <p><b>你情我願才是感情的靠山</b></p> <p><b>沒有心甘情願</b></p> <p><b>再怎麼霸佔都會顯得你可憐</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>這個問題的重點在於變質</b></p> <p><b>誰想獨佔誰就會讓愛變質</b></p> <p><b>因為獨佔就不是自然而然的感受</b></p> <p><b>要達到獨佔</b></p> <p><b>以前的人透過婚姻實施</b></p> <p><b>現在的我們知道大多數人是失敗了</b></p> <p><b>這可從離婚率和未離婚卻頻臨崩潰的夫妻知道</b></p> <p><b>因為婚姻裡埋了太多的負擔</b></p> <p><b>這負擔帶來的壓力會讓人渴望暫時逃避</b></p> <p><b>暫時逃避又不小心擦槍走火</b></p> <p><b>等到從另一個家庭再移到新的家庭</b></p> <p><b>那壓力又會再度光臨你的人生</b></p> <p><b>這就是婚姻的永世輪迴</b></p> <p><b>不讓你明白愛之所以變質是負擔過大所致</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>所以外遇的人不一定會找條件更好的</b></p> <p><b>所以外遇的心都只是貪圖剎那的放鬆</b></p> <p><b>不是要愛</b></p> <p><b>只是後來不小心又誤闖了愛</b></p> <p><b>那是罪惡到某個程度會想要的藉口</b></p> <p><b>那是迷惘到極度空虛會想要的實在</b></p> <p><b>儘管那麼不牢靠</b></p> <p><b>儘管那麼不單純</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>外遇</b></p> <p><b>讓三個真人漸漸變假</b></p> <p><b>變得忘了自己要什麼</b></p> <p><b>變得不會替人想</b></p> <p><b>變得明知這樣做對對方不公道還要做</b></p> <p><b>變得忘了愛是寬容</b></p> <p><b>變得沒多少時間相愛了還在拿愛來說愛</b></p> <p><b>愛會變質</b></p> <p><b>絕對是因為放進太多雜質</b></p> <p><b>每個與愛無關的心思都是雜質</b></p> <p><b>不純粹就會變質</b></p> <p><b>什麼是與愛無關</b></p> <p><b>負責  孩子  動產  不動產  道德  法律…… </b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>如果你談的是</b></p> <p><b>負責  孩子  動產  不動產  道德  法律…… </b></p> <p><by 許常德></p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-55142859457012152862010-07-20T22:29:00.001+08:002010-07-20T22:29:39.379+08:00人生從「逆轉勝」開始<p><a href="http://lh5.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/TEWyz6DoHoI/AAAAAAAAA-Q/lIYfy6Aj2fk/s1600-h/fight%5B3%5D.jpg"><img style="border-right-width: 0px; display: inline; border-top-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px" title="fight" border="0" alt="fight" src="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/TEWy0hN6gsI/AAAAAAAAA-U/IUwlCGkhUds/fight_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="421" height="431" /></a> </p> <p>一個年輕主管被我派去整理一個虧損單位,幾年下來,已小有成績,但離平衡尚有一小段距離,我很期待他能夠一股作氣,更上層樓,讓這個單位平衡賺錢,上演一齣「逆轉勝」的精彩戲碼。</p> <p>雖然這個單位的營業規模不大,但我非常重視,原因在於這個單位「逆轉勝」的經驗對公司、對我,以及對這位出任艱難的年輕人而言,都太重要了,所以我把這件事列為我的年度最重要的工作之一。</p> <p>我的人生就是從「逆轉勝」開始。自從我創業開始,我就跌入萬丈深淵,讓我永遠抬不起頭來,我幾乎就此沉淪,但無法可走的絕境,讓我不得不苦撐待變,日子久了,終於等到機會,也讓我的創業歷程出現了關鍵的「逆轉勝」,從這次「逆轉勝」之後,我的人生豁然開朗。</p> <a name='more'></a> <p>那八年跌落深淵的日子,讓我學會了所有的事:當所有的方法,都見不到成果時,我學會改變與應變,在不斷「試誤」中,我慢慢找到一些可行的方向;當我一無所有時,我學會「歹活」,只要能「活著」,我才有機會等待環境的改變,耐性與毅力,是我學會的另一項重要的資產。而當我從鬼門關裡走回來後,我重拾信心,去過閻王殿,我不再怕鬼,我覺得我有信心面對各種困境。</p> <p>也是因為這樣的經驗,我總是把最有潛力的主管,派到最困難的逆境,因為只要他能走出來,能夠「逆轉勝」,我就得到另一個可以獨當一面的大將。所以對這位正在尋求「逆轉勝」的年輕主管,我高度期待,寄予厚望。</p> <p>對我的公司而言,虧損單位的逆轉勝意義更大。雖然結束虧損單位,有時候可能是最簡單的處理方式,而且時間成本、機會成本、財務成本可能也較低,但是一旦結束,所有的投入付諸東流,除了打擊信心、士氣外,公司也學不到「逆轉勝」的基因,代表了公司只能打順風球,面對困境束手無策。</p> <p>所以除非我試完所有的可能,證實這個單位已經徹底無望,我絕不輕言放棄,尤其對那些定位特殊的虧損單位,我總是想盡辦法,務期讓這些單位能夠「逆轉勝」,這樣的經驗,對整個公司的營運,具有指標性的意義。</p> <p>當然最痛苦的煎熬落在這個年輕主管身上,他背負了所有的折磨,不管他對自己是否有信心,他都要一力承擔。我能給他的只有認同與鼓勵,也只有在合理預算內的支援,我只能看著他的進展,適度的投入資源,而不是充分的過度投入,這是經營困難團隊,所必需面對的待遇,要他自己先找出方向、做出改變,公司才會相對釋出支援。</p> <p>我知道這位主管的才氣與能力沒有問題,因為我已經觀察他很久。而在面對逆轉的關鍵時候,他需要的是與天為敵的蠻橫與不信邪的決心,而這些勇氣,要他自己頓悟得來,我期待他能撐得下去、走得過去。</p> <p>我們都相信你可以的!</p> <p><by 何飛鵬></p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-91231487306723974212010-05-03T18:56:00.000+08:002010-05-03T18:56:59.677+08:00Nick Vujicic | 力克片中的主角叫 Nick Vujicic,他是一位沒有雙手雙腳的人,可是,他人生觀很積極,很堅強,nick 很努力去令自己過著像普通人一樣的生活,實在太不可思議. 這樣的一個人, 在日常生活會遇到多麼巨大的困難,可是他以意志去刻服種種艱辛. 在他面前,我感到自己所面對的困難變得微不足道.你有遇過比他更大的逆境嗎? 假如沒有, 請你不要輕言放棄,請積極面對你的人生,好好生活下去. 當你面對困難挫折之時,當你想放棄的一刻,請想想 Nick Vujicic. 希望所有人都能擁有他的堅強和意志,去面對自己生活上的逆境.<br />
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<object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/XnuAyFCZjdA&hl=zh_TW&fs=1&rel=0&color1=0xe1600f&color2=0xfebd01"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/XnuAyFCZjdA&hl=zh_TW&fs=1&rel=0&color1=0xe1600f&color2=0xfebd01" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-89457616104714127342010-03-01T21:41:00.001+08:002010-03-01T21:41:35.167+08:00I don’t feel like it<p><a href="http://lh5.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/S4vECxUCIzI/AAAAAAAAA9o/y9Qajm1oUA8/s1600-h/o5fpnq4nvl_Wolfram-Schubert%5B3%5D.jpg"><img style="border-right-width: 0px; display: inline; border-top-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px" title="o5fpnq4nvl_Wolfram-Schubert" border="0" alt="o5fpnq4nvl_Wolfram-Schubert" src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/S4vEDUj3I6I/AAAAAAAAA9s/AMp_rGAs6b8/o5fpnq4nvl_Wolfram-Schubert_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="474" height="335" /></a> </p> <p>What's<em> it?</em></p> <p>Why do you need to feel like something in order to do the work? They call it work because it's difficult, not because it's something you need to feel like.</p> <p>Very few people wake up in the morning and feel like taking big risks or feel like digging deep for something that has eluded them. People don't usually feel like pushing themselves harder than they've pushed before or having conversations that might be uncomfortable.</p> <p>Of course, your feelings are irrelevant to whether or not the market expects great work. Do the work. Ignore the feelings part and the work will follow. </p> <p>< by Seth Godin ></p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-88801190693911582162010-01-23T20:42:00.001+08:002010-01-23T20:42:59.482+08:00勉強別人,理所當然。<p><a href="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/S1ruzjwhhPI/AAAAAAAAA9c/bPdw8o_9es4/s1600-h/fish-out%5B7%5D.jpg"><img style="border-bottom: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px" title="fish-out" border="0" alt="fish-out" src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/S1ru0vQT6jI/AAAAAAAAA9g/R5KHF--Plqs/fish-out_thumb%5B5%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="338" height="336" /></a> </p> <p>轉載: 商業周刊 964 期 by 何飛鵬</p> <p>一個部門主管向我抱怨: 何 先生,你不知道這件事多難執行,所有的部門都持觀望態度,因為會影響他們現有的工作,我無權命令他們,也不想勉強他們,公司可否暫停或中止這項計畫!</p> <p> <br />他的抱怨早在我意料之中,因為他負責的這項工作確實困難,許多單位需要因而改變現有的工作流程,再加上原有工作已很煩憂,所有的人都期待能放棄這項工作。但基於許多原因,公司不能放棄。</p> <p> <br />我告訴這位主管:你是無權命令他們,但你推行的是公司的政策,理論上他們不樂意配合,可也不至於嚴詞拒絕。你要用各種方法,勉強他們一起配合,可是如果你不想「勉強」別人,那這件事肯定辦不成!</p> <p> <br />「勉強別人做事」,這可是我這輩子花了最多時間學習的事。年輕的時候,最討厭別人逼迫我做什麼事,總覺得所有的事都應該「自動自發」才完美。因此長大後開始工作,我也「己所不欲,勿施於人」,討厭去勉強別人,盡可能不去勉強別人,也因而面臨了很長一段時間,一事無成,什麼事也做不了,讓別人覺得一點能力也沒有的尷尬狀況!</p> <p> <br />我慢慢發覺,幾乎沒有一件事是別人樂意去幫你的,每一個人都是在他人不斷的催促、不斷的說服、不斷的溝通、不斷的哀求之下,完成某一件事。 <br />譬如:老師「勉強」學生讀書;父母「勉強」兒女用功;小孩「勉強」爸媽給零用錢;主管「勉強」部屬完成工作;業務員「勉強」客戶下單;政府「勉強」人民繳稅……。 <br /></p> <p>我驚覺,這是一個無處不「勉強」的世界,我更驚覺,人生的真相就是「勉強別人」,而成功的人,就是很會「勉強」別人的人,能力則是用勉強別人來衡量,不會勉強別人的人,就是沒有能力的人。</p> <p> <br /><strong>「勉強」用各種不同的形式存在。 <br />最粗魯而直接的勉強叫命令; <br />文雅、含蓄的勉強叫溝通; <br />用道理去勉強叫說服; <br />詭詐的勉強,叫欺騙; <br />用好處去勉強叫引誘; <br />炫惑的勉強叫廣告; <br />不斷的勉強,叫鍥而不捨。</strong></p> <p><strong> <br />勉強是一切事物的原動力,任何工作、任何任務,都需要不斷的勉強自己、勉強別人,才能夠完成。</strong></p> <strong></strong> <p> <br />勉強自己的難度,尤勝於勉強別人。就像年輕時的我一般,我視勉強別人為罪惡,因此不勉強別人有理,勉強自己那就更違背原則,為何不讓自己快樂點,何需自我勉強? <br /></p> <p>我終於認清真相,勉強原來是不可或缺的。學生因勉強而成長,營業人員因勉強而成就業績,工作者因勉強而績效非凡,主管因能勉強別人,而完成困難的任務,老闆因能勉強所有的人,而獲利賺錢。 <br /></p> <p>勉強伴隨著困難而來,因困難,故需勉強,不願勉強別人,其實是無能力勉強的託辭,學會勉強別人,是工作者認清事實,學習成長的開始。</p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-35609063180026334382010-01-11T22:00:00.000+08:002010-01-11T22:00:49.060+08:00孤獨與品味<iframe src="http://docs.google.com/present/embed?id=dc8zpvf8_71c7d624f4&interval=5&size=m" frameborder="0" width="555" height="451"></iframe>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-79921967964393853302010-01-07T20:47:00.001+08:002010-01-07T20:47:25.287+08:00趨吉避凶?<p>輸與贏,雖然都只是一時的,但人性就是喜歡落井下石,對輸的人傷口灑鹽,這時,心態決定成敗。就像很多人憂心忡忡的拿著命盤問我,說:”我命盤上有很多煞星,該怎麼辦?”。 <br />我笑著說:“你命盤裡也有很多吉星,你為什麼不看?專看煞星?”。 <br />他說:“因為煞星的力量比較強,會把我之前的努力都劫走,所以,我要看清楚煞星的位置,避開它們,再來努力,才會趨吉避凶。”。</p> <p>我常常舉下面這個例子: <br /><strong>為什麼在紫微命盤裡,擎羊陀羅二煞星永夾祿存?</strong> <br />不管你的行運是順行還是逆行,要想碰到祿存(把祿存起來),不是先碰到擎羊,就是先碰到陀羅。也就是說,想要有錢,先要受苦。 <br />而祿存行運結束,又一定再碰到羊陀之一,非羊即陀,表示有錢之後,也還是要受苦。</p> <p>所以命盤裡的<strong>煞星就像遍地荊棘,</strong>會將你的雙腳割得到處是傷; <br />命盤裡的<strong>吉星則像隱藏在荊棘之後的甜美甘泉,</strong>在你每次又累又渴,快要喪失希望時,適時得到一絲的安慰。 <br />如果你害怕荊棘的刺,你就不可能享受到甘泉的甜美。 <br />換句話說,你想喝到甘泉,就必須先接受荊棘的刺痛,並且習慣去接受它。因為,當你想喝下一道甘泉時,又必須再度去忍受荊棘的尖刺。 <br />很明顯的,越習慣荊棘的人,必然衝得越快,於是喝到下一口甘泉的機會越多;甚至因此,他可能先到先贏,把甘泉圈起來,高價賣給後來的人,讓後來的人去替他除去前面的荊棘。於是,越害怕荊棘的人,反而會碰到更多的荊棘;<strong>越不害怕荊棘的人,就越不會碰到荊棘。</strong> <br />這就是人生的宿命。</p> <p>紫微斗數是很公平的,上自將相王侯,下至販夫走卒,馬英九與陳水扁也一樣,在每一個人的命盤裡,108顆星一顆也少不掉。你想要等煞星過完嗎?恐怕等到最後,吉星也變成凶星了! <br />所以,會運用命盤的人,應該是充分掌握煞星的力量,讓自己習慣接受煞星的衝擊,並且把失敗的影響降到最低,以準備下一次的失敗;失敗多了以後,碰到吉星之時,<strong>積小敗為大勝,</strong>最終,人生的命盤必然呈現給你甘美的果實! <br />反之,如果你習於吉星的安逸,覺得人生順遂,不須努力,那麼,一旦碰到煞星,<strong>積小勝為大敗,</strong>一次失敗,就會將你打倒在地,永無翻身的餘地。</p> <p>沒有人的命盤能永遠成功!趨吉避凶,就是要把危機變成轉機。</p> <p>研究命運,就是調整心態,用對方法,讓命盤裡的每一顆星發光發熱,照亮你的人生之路,把荊棘變成坦途。</p> <p>(本篇文章 同步發表於新新聞張盛舒專欄內-第1190期98/12/30出刊)</p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-42341696522057789492009-11-10T16:17:00.001+08:002009-11-10T16:17:41.987+08:00Positive | 正面思維<p align="center"><strong><a href="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/Svkhol3yS7I/AAAAAAAAA8I/_QIAmWjlZeU/s1600-h/y5jvtbnzue_QOMVUQt0Ulrphmm5LWpCkbdHo1_500%5B3%5D.jpg"><img style="border-right-width: 0px; display: inline; border-top-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px" title="y5jvtbnzue_QOMVUQt0Ulrphmm5LWpCkbdHo1_500" border="0" alt="y5jvtbnzue_QOMVUQt0Ulrphmm5LWpCkbdHo1_500" src="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SvkhpY4HNiI/AAAAAAAAA8M/NTrk9IntOGc/y5jvtbnzue_QOMVUQt0Ulrphmm5LWpCkbdHo1_500_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="343" height="343" /></a> </strong></p> <p align="center"><strong>要有正面的思維 因為思維會延伸為你的言語</strong></p> <p align="center"><strong>要有正面的言語 因為言語會轉換到你的行為</strong></p> <p align="center"><strong>要有正面的行為 因為行為會累積成你的習性</strong></p> <p align="center"><strong>要有正面的習性 因為習性會塑造出你的價值觀</strong></p> <p align="center"><strong>要有正面的價值觀 因為價值觀會造就你一生的命運</strong></p> <p align="center"><strong>-- 甘地 --</strong></p> <p align="center"><strong><em></em></strong></p> <p align="center"><em><strong>“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.</strong></em></p> <p align="center"><em><strong>Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviours.</strong></em></p> <p align="center"><em><strong>Keep your behaviors positive because your behaviors become your habits.</strong></em></p> <p align="center"><em><strong>Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values.</strong></em></p> <p align="center"><em><strong>Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”</strong></em></p> <p align="center"><em><strong></strong></em></p> <p align="center"><strong>Mahatma Gandhi</strong></p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-14467979052473320592009-11-05T20:36:00.001+08:002009-11-05T20:36:45.281+08:00滑順如絲的第一次…<p><a href="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SvLG2ZYEkAI/AAAAAAAAA8A/9pQanKLMsao/s1600-h/kpz480gewx_1223171252335613%5B4%5D.jpg"><img style="border-bottom: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px" title="kpz480gewx_1223171252335613" border="0" alt="kpz480gewx_1223171252335613" src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SvLG3DRVxEI/AAAAAAAAA8E/wQHU08WmRIM/kpz480gewx_1223171252335613_thumb%5B2%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="409" height="283" /></a> </p> <p>這真的是一個講求快速的社會,特別是這幾年的書局中,各門各類領域的參考書籍,都不得不打著類似「如何在七天之內…」、「三天讓妳成為…達人」或「一天就搞懂…」的書名,來吸引有興趣的讀者。不可諱言,越是需要強調可以速成的技術,往往也透露著那項技術不好學,而書商也順著大眾的心態,先推出速成當購買噱頭再說,至於讀者要深入研究與否,那當然是修行在個人囉。</p> <p>關於這類的學習心得分享,就讓我說說當初學打高爾夫球的經驗吧…</p> <p>十多年前剛認識的一位朋友,姑隱其名就叫小麥好了,他從五歲起就跟著企業家的父親開始打高爾夫,由於不曾間斷而造就了他職業水準的技術,也是我三生有幸能向他學習打高爾夫球。記得,每每與他下場打球,他的開球總是讓前後組的陌生球友們讚賞聲不斷,當時我真是以有這樣的朋友為榮。在那時候,還有另一個好友,化名叫小羊好了,得知我正在學打球,也湊過來一起和小麥認識與學習,當然,小麥的細心和專業教導對小羊與我倆最大好處是省了一大筆專業教練費用。</p> <p>練習場的練習是一定要的,特別是初學者。我印象很深刻的是,當第一次適切精準地將小白球擊出時,那種沒有"挖土"、沒有"揮桿落空"、沒有"角度偏移"的"亂象",只有單純地、輕巧地、無阻礙感地、滑順地…將球漂亮擊出的感覺,是難以形容的"空"的震懾,彷彿萬籟俱寂唯有一聲"ㄎㄧㄤ",美妙極了。專業的小麥自然地注意到我的成功"處女作",直道:「就是這種感覺!」(我都還沒說半句話,他怎知我"有感覺"? 靈通?)</p> <p>我說: 「是很空,但又很實在的感覺?!」(當時,實在不知道怎會同時有空和實的兩種感觸? 特別是"空"。)</p> <p>小麥: 「記住這感覺,以後就只要用這感覺去打球就對了! 」</p> <p>隨著"成功"次數越加頻繁,我才領會到那個"空"對我的意義,是一種渾然"沒有阻礙"的暢快。</p> <p>可能是小麥本就有迎接挑戰的個性,他很快地就帶我們下球場實戰,記得我當時還跟他提問,「一般不是說要在練習場練上個半年,才有下場的基本功夫? 我們才去過練習場2次而已耶!」小麥回道: 「練習場不會間斷呀,純粹用意是因為沒有球場場地的各種地形及周邊因素的考驗,你們就不知道為什麼要在練習場"苦練基本功",自然也不會明白各種地形的考驗與基本功的關係,也更加不會知曉每一次白球入洞的感覺是什麼,為何而戰、如何應戰和戰利品是什麼,都在實戰場地中!」(至今,每次想到這對話,都得再次佩服這個平實廢話不多的小麥,竟然能說得一口好哲理呀。) </p> <p>由於我一直或沉浸或找尋那個揮桿成功的"空與實"的美妙,初學那段時間根本就不在意"打幾桿"的問題,倒是小羊就飽受"面子"的折磨了。小羊是個某種運動的國家代表選手,他常說他不相信小白球有什麼難的,但問題就出現在當人們越是急著表現,基本功的紮實與否就越受到考驗,更遑論隔行如隔山了。好像就在第三次與我們下場時,小羊因為中途某一洞的揮桿狀況很不好,不是挖土就是落空而使他的火爆個性大發 (當然不是針對小麥和我),抓狂似地像農夫鋤土的砸桿動作,斥喝宣洩: 「xxx,我真的連十八洞都打不完,老子這輩子不打高爾夫總可以了吧。」當時場面一點也不尷尬,因為運動員的脾氣本具爆發力,正常!當然啦,小羊自此就再也不打高爾夫了。於是就這樣,小麥帶領著我到處打球,經年累月地在練習場與球場間的交錯練習,好讓我一直琢磨著"揮桿成功的感覺"和"各個不同球場的考驗",然而,球場環境變化何其多,卻只單單考驗一個基本功-- "駕輕就熟的心智"。</p> <p>最近這幾年雖然因為時空因素的不允許而暫時封桿了,但是過往那段長時間下來的高爾夫球經驗告訴我,事事項項一定得要如同練習揮桿到"駕輕就熟"的境界,才有應對如球場千變萬化情勢的能耐。</p> <p>時下許多年輕人和我以前年輕歲月的理想很雷同,都有一股出人頭地、渴望成功人生的企圖心,但是,隨著年齡增長,越發覺得人們很容易地將追求成功當成虛幻的口號而不自覺,更甚者,也有人只是把住豪宅買名車花大錢當成成功的目標,反而疏忽了自己才能基本功的紮實度,這樣一來,只要遇上流年運勢稍差或環境因素變化,就很容易會發生理想泡沫化的情形,著實禁不起考驗。</p> <p>我無意暗指那些以速成為書名的不好,單純只是要提醒追求人生大夢的同好們,無論吃飯的傢伙也好,興趣的培養也罷,練習與實戰間的反覆錘鍊,才是所謂"成功的基本功",而每一次的進步才是"成功的軌跡"。對於傳統時代的徒弟出師所需的三年四個月,千萬別訕笑那漫長的學徒光陰,真功夫的學習當如是;對於書局中速成學習的噱頭,千萬別信以為真,以為看看書就可當達人,到時恐怕不是書名騙不騙你的問題,而是你是不是在騙自己才是後續會遇到的考驗點。</p> <p>還記得第一次,賣出產品或生意談成和客戶簽完合約的感覺嗎?  </p> <p>還記得第一次,千方百計好不容易才約到喜歡對象的喜悅感覺嗎?</p> <p>不管你在什麼事件上第一次成功的喜悅,如朋友小麥所說,一定要記住那個感覺,並用那個感覺,來應對你要達成的目標。所以,如果你在某個領域裡,一直沒有第一次成功的經驗,別放棄,捲起袖子彎下腰… 繼續嘗試,只要你找到第一次成功的感覺,那表示你已經踏上康莊大道了。</p> <p>滑順、無阻礙、駕輕就熟的時刻,就是成功附身的當下。Enjoy it.</p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-87619353978677775982009-10-30T12:24:00.001+08:002009-10-30T12:24:32.986+08:00心的溫度,自己決定!<p><b><a href="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SupqegejiKI/AAAAAAAAA7g/lL_AhERmOB0/s1600-h/28658-fullsize%5B3%5D.jpg"><img style="border-right-width: 0px; display: inline; border-top-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px" title="28658-fullsize" border="0" alt="28658-fullsize" src="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/Supqf6m85vI/AAAAAAAAA7k/ZJyD1t6RTmA/28658-fullsize_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="365" height="365" /></a> </b></p> <p><b>一位白髮 蒼蒼的老 教授在學生畢業的最後一節課時說:</b><b>  <br /></b><b>「這是我給你們上最後一堂課了,這是一堂簡單的實驗課,也是一堂深奧的實驗課,</b></p> <p><b>我希望你們以後能永遠記住這最後一堂課。」教授說著,取出一個玻璃容器,又注入了</b></p> <p><b>半容器清水。教授把盛水的容器放進一旁的冰櫃說:「現在我們將它製冷。」</b></p> <p><b>過了一會兒,容器取出來了,裡面的水凝結成了晶瑩剔透的冰。</b></p> <p><b>教授說:「 0℃以下, </b><b>這些水就成了冰,冰是水的另一種形態,但水成了冰,它就不能流動了。」</b></p> <p><b>「現在,我們來看水的第三種形態。」教授邊說邊把盛冰的玻璃容器放在酒精爐上,並點燃了酒精爐。 </b></p> <p><b>過了一會兒,冰漸漸溶化成了水,後來水被燒沸了,咕咕嘟嘟地翻騰出一縷縷乳白色的水蒸氣,在實驗室裡靜靜地氤氳著、瀰漫著。過了沒多久,容器裡的水蒸發乾了。</b></p> <p><b>教授關掉酒精爐,讓同學們一個個驗看玻璃容器,說:「誰能說出這些水到哪兒去了呢?」 </b></p> <p><b>學生盯著教授,他們不明白這最後一堂課,學識淵博的教授為什麼給他們做這個最簡單的實驗。</b></p> <p><b>教授看著</b><b>那些不願回答這個問題的學生說:「水哪裡去了呢?它們蒸發進空氣裡,融進藍藍的遼闊無邊的天空。」</b></p> <p><b>教授微微頓了一頓又說:「你們可能都覺得這個實驗太簡單了,但是……」</b></p> <p><b>教授口氣一轉,嚴肅地說:「它並不是一個簡單的實驗!」 </b></p> <p><b>教授瞅了一眼那些迷惑不解的學生說:「水有三種狀態,人生也有三種狀態。水的狀態是由溫度決定的,人生的狀態是由自己心靈的溫度決定的。」 </b></p> <p><b>教授說:「假若一個人對生活和人生的溫度是 0℃以下,</b></p> <p><b>那麼這個人的生活狀態就會是冰,</b></p> <p><b>他的整個人生境界也就不過他雙腳站的地方那麼大;</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>假若一個人對生活和人生抱平常的心態,</b></p> <p><b>那麼他就是一掬常態下的水,他能奔流進大河、大海,但他永遠離不開 大地;</b></p> <p><b>假若一個人對生活和人生是100℃的熾熱,那麼他就會成為水蒸氣,</b></p> <p><b>成為雲朵,他將飛起來,他不僅擁有大地,還能擁有天空,他的世界和宇宙一樣大。」</b></p> <p><b>教授微笑著望著他的學生們問:「明白這堂最簡單的實驗課了嗎?」 </b></p> <p><b>「不,這不是一堂簡單的實驗課!」學生們異口同聲地回答。</b></p> <p><b>水的溫度靠火的加溫達到 100℃,而人心靈的溫度則靠正面的思考、樂觀的心、</b></p> <p><b>親友的關懷、溫柔體貼的心、對這世界的好奇心、勤奮努力等等來加溫。</b></p> <p><b>希望今天這篇文章能讓各位朋友們心的溫度升到滿滿的 100℃,</b></p> <p><b>讓您我的生活變的更多加采多姿。 </b></p> <p><b>聰明的人,喜歡猜心;雖然每次都猜對了,卻失去了自己的心。</b></p> <p><b>傻氣的人,喜歡給心;雖然每次都被笑了,卻得到了別人的心。</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p><b>得意人前勿談失意事,失意人前勿說得意事。</b></p> <p><b>得意時,勿忘陪您走過失意時的朋友。</b></p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-49625924792669362882009-10-28T14:16:00.001+08:002009-10-28T14:16:26.766+08:00誰偷走了你的相機<p><a href="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SufhtoJewsI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/E00azy_anW8/s1600-h/PA240004%5B3%5D.jpg"><img style="border-right-width: 0px; display: inline; border-top-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px" title="PA240004" border="0" alt="PA240004" src="http://lh5.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SufhuVnMPeI/AAAAAAAAA7c/V1QJ_a0Wp8U/PA240004_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="409" height="312" /></a> (圖:兩歲多的女兒)</p> <p>大概沒有人選在悲傷的時刻,會想要拿起相機做拍照留念吧!</p> <p> </p> <p>多數人的生活照,應該都是歡笑、快樂、幸福、滿足、感動、美好… 的相片吧!</p> <p> </p> <p>你多久沒有拍照 就代表你多久沒有快樂的片刻 … 你認同嗎?</p> <p> </p> <p>那麼,是誰偷走了你的相機?</p> <p>還是是誰偷走了你的快樂?</p> <p> </p> <p>上班、工作、賺錢 是為了更美好的生活 … 很多人這麼說  也無需反對</p> <p>但是 更美好的生活 不必用最新的相機機型 最in的手機 最夯的車型 最頂級的豪宅… 來取代</p> <p>因為 人在努力追逐"最好的"的過程中 </p> <p>往往最容易忘了最美好生活的本質… 也就是享受當下的富足</p> <p> </p> <p>時間的運轉非常的快</p> <p>如果你不偶爾停下腳步 看看自己的周遭 來享受當下的片刻幸福</p> <p>那你可能會錯過許多美好… 在生命中 !</p> <p> </p> <p>拿出你的相機 … 笑一個吧 : )</p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-75482324258124433602009-10-26T15:36:00.001+08:002009-10-26T15:36:06.284+08:00登高望遠<p><a href="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SuVRYrO4u1I/AAAAAAAAA68/fCUZaEaOEII/s1600-h/mountain-climbing%5B3%5D.jpg"><img style="border-right-width: 0px; display: inline; border-top-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px" title="" border="0" alt="" src="http://lh5.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SuVRZWGuKJI/AAAAAAAAA7E/PJCvY4uOJIs/mountain-climbing_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="383" height="292" /></a></p> <p>“Nobody trips over mountains.</p> <p>It is the small pebble that causes you stumble.</p> <p>Pass all the pebbles in you path,</p> <p>and you will find you have crossed the mountain.”</p> <p>沒有人會被山脈絆倒.</p> <p>通常會造成你跌倒的都是小石塊.</p> <p>一一通過你前進路途上所有的小石頭後,</p> <p>你將會發現你已經越過了整座山陵。</p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-36300660161615733212009-10-23T14:18:00.003+08:002009-10-23T18:17:05.407+08:00Tuesdays with Morrie | 最後14堂星期二的課<a bitly="BITLY_PROCESSED" href="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SuFKk3TNQqI/AAAAAAAAA60/Drqa3fLeXRI/s1600-h/tuesdays-with-morrie-video-release-poster-c10120532%5B1%5D.jpg"><img alt="tuesdays-with-morrie-video-release-poster-c10120532" border="0" height="403" src="http://lh3.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/SuFKl84iXvI/AAAAAAAAA64/is80gN9fW4Y/tuesdays-with-morrie-video-release-poster-c10120532_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" style="border: 0px none; display: inline;" title="tuesdays-with-morrie-video-release-poster-c10120532" width="269" /></a> <br />
還記得很久以前 <br />
應該是在"<a bitly="BITLY_PROCESSED" href="http://www.books.com.tw/exep/prod/booksfile.php?item=0010254484" target="_blank" title="青年的四個大夢 | 吳靜吉">青年的四個大夢</a>" 那個年代吧 (1980初版)<br />
社會氛圍 強調的是"良師益友" 與其影響一生的重要性<br />
現今社會步調加快<br />
講求的是職場貴人 金主貴人 事業貴人… 居多<br />
才得以適切地跟上經濟發展的脈動<br />
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然而 一時的貴人 值得感恩<br />
但是 一世的貴人 卻是感動<br />
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<div class="main"><div class="rte-wrapper"><div><span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">沒有貪欲 就少了人性</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">少了人性慾望的追求 就少了對人性的深刻體認</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">佛書 經書 聖賢書</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">都是前人在歷經人性貪欲的反覆得失後 所琢磨出來的智慧</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">是生活與人格修行的參考 但絕不是成佛成道的捷徑</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">所謂...</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">沒去過地獄 哪知曉天堂的來到</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">沒經過黑夜 哪明辨白天的光明</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">沒有貪噌痴 哪悟得放下的智慧</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">修練 不單讀萬卷書 更要行萬里路</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">這萬里路 非狹義的旅行而已</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">更應該是 廣義的人生階段經歷... </span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">比如...</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">體認黑夜白天與春夏秋冬</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">經過生老病死與悲歡離合</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">處事起承轉合與勝敗得失</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">人際愛恨情仇與喜怒哀樂...盡是萬里心歷路...<br />
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</span><span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">除非年輕就皈依宗教 (各種宗教皆是) </span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">則可因學習與奉行無上生命智慧教義而淨化生命</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">不然 未經人性社會考驗 直接拿佛經聖賢書來當現實生命準則</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">多數機率會掉入象牙塔的迷障中</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">(再次強調 早已皈依 另當別論 因那人生課題是不同的)</span> <br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">想要修練自我 也是一種貪欲 </span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">那是承認貪欲存在的心態</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">想要突破自我 還是貪欲</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">一種認為自身不完美的反面心理</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">無我 才能觀自在</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">自在 不是遠離欲望 逃避現實 找到一個讓你安全自在的地方</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">自在 是在欲望環境 嚴苛現實 仍可迎刃而解處之泰然的態度</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 18px;">貪欲 是人性本然 也是神性 佛性</span><br />
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<div class="rte-wrapper"><div><span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">紫微斗數 是一門所謂的祿命學</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">其功能在於推算常人對 "妻財子祿" 的追求運勢</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">也就是泛指的 "感情 錢財 子女 官祿" 所組成的社會型態架構</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">對於上了年紀 或了悟世間紅塵 或年老癡呆 或處於無爭無求環境...</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">紫微斗數就不必派上用場了</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">人的大腦是一個藉由各種因素引起思考 </span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">而會產生電磁效應的器官</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">當面對不同的環境或人事物的碰撞</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">會產生自我生存(利益)的思考</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">一旦有了思考 就會由大腦突觸產生的磁波</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">來與環境的磁場互動 進而產生量子的磁波碰撞</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">且因人人個性不同 學習不同 追求和在意的事項也不同</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">就會產生不同的觀念 來處理當下的環境問題</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">以便讓自己有生存(利益)下去 或 選擇放棄的動作...</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">換句話說</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">年紀到一個程度</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">或 人生體驗到一個階段</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">或 所處的環境使然...</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">若不再需要藉由大腦的突觸來引發個性 觀念 作法 選擇...<br />
來煩惱於世間常存的妻財子祿 </span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">那麼 也就不需要用到紫微斗數了</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">因為 紫微斗數 是祿命學 是給追逐名利 權勢 金錢 ... 專用的</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">對於 停止追求 與 放下一切的人... 是無用武之地的</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">如果說人有生辰八字 來斷禍福 [可參考我的文章 按</span><a bitly="BITLY_PROCESSED" href="http://dazii.blogspot.com/2009/08/blog-post_31.html" style="font-family: yui-tmp;" target="_blank" title="你並不等於你的八字"><span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">這裡</span></a><span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">]</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">那就好比地球的經緯度 來作氣象預測與環境對應的研究</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">當人瑞不需要追求名利權勢時</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">就好像是身處桃花源一般...</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">而桃花源 是不必做氣象預測的</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">因為 天天都是好心情 自然天天都是好天氣</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">管他什麼經緯度... 一樣不管用 !</span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">倘若 您非要算不可</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">那麼 120歲以上的人</span><br />
<span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">其十年大限 會回歸於第一個大限<br />
唯一要注意的是 該大限的宮干與延伸的各宮宮干<br />
要延續上個大限而來 不再以原盤的五虎遁月所得之宮干<br />
</span><span style="color: #373e68; font-family: DFKai-sb; font-size: 16px;">而其流年運勢 依然與常人一樣 按造常態的流年推算即可</span> <br />
</div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-13525968366417317272009-10-15T14:54:00.001+08:002009-10-15T14:54:10.178+08:00婚姻 | 時間契約<p><a href="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/StbHDuj9JqI/AAAAAAAAA6U/wPRvgBenqUY/s1600-h/a93odkjww8_2j4uagh%5B4%5D.jpg"><img style="border-right-width: 0px; display: inline; border-top-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px" title="a93odkjww8_2j4uagh" border="0" alt="a93odkjww8_2j4uagh" src="http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/StbHEU5SZlI/AAAAAAAAA6Y/SyKwRbEs_ag/a93odkjww8_2j4uagh_thumb%5B2%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="323" height="420" /></a> </p> <p>如果我們結婚時 <br />要簽婚姻的時間契約 <br />你願意嗎? </p> <p>如果我們只簽一年 <br />那你願意用一輩子的愛與關懷 <br />在這一年內 全用來好好愛我嗎? </p> <p>如果我們要簽十年 <br />那你願意讓我們選在你運勢最差的十年大運之時嗎? <br />因為這樣你就不會因運勢太好的忙碌而疏忽了我 <br />也就有更多的時間來陪我 </p> <p>如果我們要簽一輩子 <br />那你會不會把你的愛 <br />切割成數十等份 然後分成一年一等份地 每天只剩一點點地愛我? <br />甚至 淡忘掉怎麼愛我?</p> Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-10623822217383755142009-10-14T20:15:00.003+08:002009-10-15T09:47:50.085+08:00紅綠燈<a bitly="BITLY_PROCESSED" href="http://lh5.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/StXA-bn6lDI/AAAAAAAAA6M/DNyaZTFqfxA/s1600-h/3982751967_b7efdd5fd2%5B4%5D.jpg"><img alt="SONY DSC" border="0" height="284" src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/StXA-4KX7sI/AAAAAAAAA6Q/uixypro8MxQ/3982751967_b7efdd5fd2_thumb%5B2%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" style="border-width: 0px; display: inline;" title="SONY DSC" width="352" /></a><br />
紅綠燈 是都會區最常見的交通號誌之一 <br />
是很容易遵守的: "紅燈停 綠燈就走" <br />
這對多數人而言 挺簡單的 <br />
但是林立於生活中的紅綠燈 就相對要花些心思來遵守了...<br />
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比如說 <br />
小孩子的紅綠燈 就是家規了 <br />
也可延伸說成家教 嚴肅點也叫家法 <br />
不過 應該大部分家庭 是沒有用"明文"來規定吧 <br />
說穿了 就是從小到大 父母說不可以的就是家規 <br />
也就是小孩子行為舉止的紅燈標誌 <br />
一般而言 所謂的家規 大人說了算 <br />
不過 有時是看大人的情緒而定的 <br />
心情好的時候 原本會被處罰的事由 <br />
就會被網開一面了! <br />
於是 聰明的小孩 就開始從中學習如何看大人的臉色 <br />
來游走於家規裡 以免受罰<br />
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上了學校 也有紅綠燈 就叫校規 <br />
這就比家規麻煩些了 因為是有明文規定的 <br />
舉凡常見的爬牆 抽菸 打架... 怎處罰 (似乎)都有記載 <br />
雖然 鮮少學生去研究校規 <br />
但至少 哪些事違反校規 大抵是清楚的<br />
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這裡 有個小故事 算不算違反校規 我現在倒是不禁玩味起來... <br />
我念的高中原本是所男校 (二十多年前) <br />
會被記過的是哪些勾當 誰不知道 光看佈告欄就知八九 <br />
也就是天天偷偷做的那些事 只是有沒被教官逮到的差異罷了 <br />
老教條 老規定 沒新鮮的 <br />
直到念高三時 才知道有件事 校規也管 <br />
話說學校在我高三那年起開始招收第一屆女生 <br />
一個學期都還不到 同班同學就把一個學妹的肚子搞大了 <br />
當時這同學是以破壞校譽為由 被記大過 <br />
現在想想 當時學校的校規 恐怕還來不及"立法"性關係的規定 <br />
就已經被同學超越了 <br />
男同學面對女生家長及後續的部分不談 <br />
單就這一個破壞校譽的涵蓋範圍 想想還真是寬廣 <br />
只是 當時大家也覺得 同學肯定理所當然地會被記大過 <br />
在那一個多數學生沒有異議的年代<br />
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出了社會 成了大人 紅綠燈就更多了 <br />
憲法刑法民法...很多人搞不懂的一堆法律 是一定有的 <br />
交通規則 稅法 公司法 勞工法 ... 也是一堆可獨立探討的規定 <br />
這些有形的 有明文規定的 還算好的 萬一觸了法 該怎就怎看著辦 <br />
重點是 還有更多無形的紅綠燈... <br />
上司下屬間 同事間 人際關係與職場倫理的紅綠燈 <br />
婆媳 姑嫂 妯娌... 的紅綠燈 <br />
愛情 友情 情侶 夫妻 婚姻... 到處都有紅綠燈 <br />
若再加上所謂"道德"的紅綠燈 那就真數不清了<br />
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想想 當大人 還真累 <br />
難怪 大人都不由地規定小孩子 "這不行 那不可以..." <br />
因為自己就生活在到處都是紅綠燈的環境中<br />
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不過 最有趣的 就是如同常聽到小孩子說的: 為什麼大人可以 小孩子就不可以? <br />
相信大多數的例子 看新聞及社會百態即可 不需贅言 <br />
最經典的莫過於我自己眼中 政治高官的"闖紅燈了"... <br />
"在紅燈亮著的街口 大夥都依序停下來了 <br />
只有他們一家子 視若無睹 沒命似地闖了過去 <br />
當下 當大夥還在目瞪口呆 接著議論紛紛 再覺不可思議 最後回過神時 <br />
闖紅燈的 已經不見蹤影了"<br />
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有人說: "真不要命 就這樣闖過去!" <br />
旁人回: "誰說他們闖紅燈了 你沒看到交通管制的與護送的嗎?" <br />
路人道: "哪是...別亂說! 這分明是學我們以前台中飆車族的風格... 紅綠燈 參考用的而已!"<br />
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這時 我突然又想起高中同學的那支"很籠統"大過 <br />
當時大家看似理所當然 <br />
其實 只要被鑽個漏洞或巧妙的手法 大過可能是記不成的...<br />
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"又有人闖紅燈了 唉!" 有人叫喊著 <br />
"在哪裡?" 穿制服的問了...<br />
<br />
最後 <br />
綠燈亮了<br />
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大家又繼續向前走了!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1707752188112131054.post-22765214025484516132009-10-09T10:28:00.004+08:002009-10-09T10:40:11.918+08:00Revenge of Right Brain<b><a bitly="BITLY_PROCESSED" href="http://lh3.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/Ss6fvhqyFtI/AAAAAAAAA6E/DhJslQMrA24/s1600-h/FF_70_brain1_f%5B4%5D.jpg"><img alt="FF_70_brain1_f" border="0" height="245" src="http://lh5.ggpht.com/_6uUVbuhm57Q/Ss6fw7PDW9I/AAAAAAAAA6I/MxxXGrUqpKY/FF_70_brain1_f_thumb%5B2%5D.jpg?imgmax=800" style="border: 0px none; display: inline;" title="FF_70_brain1_f" width="317" /></a> </b><br />
<b>When I was a kid</b> - growing up in a middle-class family, in the middle of America, in the middle of the 1970s - parents dished out a familiar plate of advice to their children: Get good grades, go to college, and pursue a profession that offers a decent standard of living and perhaps a dollop of prestige. If you were good at math and science, become a doctor. If you were better at English and history, become a lawyer. If blood grossed you out and your verbal skills needed work, become an accountant. Later, as computers appeared on desktops and CEOs on magazine covers, the youngsters who were <i>really</i> good at math and science chose high tech, while others flocked to business school, thinking that success was spelled MBA.<br />
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Tax attorneys. Radiologists. Financial analysts. Software engineers. Management guru Peter Drucker gave this cadre of professionals an enduring, if somewhat wonky, name: knowledge workers. These are, he wrote, "people who get paid for putting to work what one learns in school rather than for their physical strength or manual skill." What distinguished members of this group and enabled them to reap society's greatest rewards, was their "ability to acquire and to apply theoretical and analytic knowledge." And any of us could join their ranks. All we had to do was study hard and play by the rules of the meritocratic regime. That was the path to professional success and personal fulfillment.<br />
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But a funny thing happened while we were pressing our noses to the grindstone: The world changed. The future no longer belongs to people who can reason with computer-like logic, speed, and precision. It belongs to a different kind of person with a different kind of mind. Today - amid the uncertainties of an economy that has gone from boom to bust to blah - there's a metaphor that explains what's going on. And it's right inside our heads.<br />
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Scientists have long known that a neurological Mason-Dixon line cleaves our brains into two regions - the left and right hemispheres. But in the last 10 years, thanks in part to advances in functional magnetic resonance imaging, researchers have begun to identify more precisely how the two sides divide responsibilities. The left hemisphere handles sequence, literalness, and analysis. The right hemisphere, meanwhile, takes care of context, emotional expression, and synthesis. Of course, the human brain, with its 100 billion cells forging 1 quadrillion connections, is breathtakingly complex. The two hemispheres work in concert, and we enlist both sides for nearly everything we do. But the structure of our brains can help explain the contours of our times.<br />
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Until recently, the abilities that led to success in school, work, and business were characteristic of the left hemisphere. They were the sorts of linear, logical, analytical talents measured by SATs and deployed by CPAs. Today, those capabilities are still necessary. But they're no longer sufficient. In a world upended by outsourcing, deluged with data, and choked with choices, the abilities that matter most are now closer in spirit to the specialties of the right hemisphere - artistry, empathy, seeing the big picture, and pursuing the transcendent.<br />
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Beneath the nervous clatter of our half-completed decade stirs a slow but seismic shift. The Information Age we all prepared for is ending. Rising in its place is what I call the Conceptual Age, an era in which mastery of abilities that we've often overlooked and undervalued marks the fault line between who gets ahead and who falls behind.<br />
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To some of you, this shift - from an economy built on the logical, sequential abilities of the Information Age to an economy built on the inventive, empathic abilities of the Conceptual Age - sounds delightful. "You had me at hello!" I can hear the painters and nurses exulting. But to others, this sounds like a crock. "Prove it!" I hear the programmers and lawyers demanding.<br />
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OK. To convince you, I'll explain the reasons for this shift, using the mechanistic language of cause and effect.<br />
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The effect: the scales tilting in favor of right brain-style thinking. The causes: Asia, automation, and abundance.<br />
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<b>Asia</b><br />
Few issues today spark more controversy than outsourcing. Those squadrons of white-collar workers in India, the Philippines, and China are scaring the bejesus out of software jockeys across North America and Europe. According to Forrester Research, 1 in 9 jobs in the US information technology industry will move overseas by 2010. And it's not just tech work. Visit India's office parks and you'll see chartered accountants preparing American tax returns, lawyers researching American lawsuits, and radiologists reading CAT scans for US hospitals.<br />
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The reality behind the alarm is this: Outsourcing to Asia is overhyped in the short term, but underhyped in the long term. We're not all going to lose our jobs tomorrow. (The total number of jobs lost to offshoring so far represents less than 1 percent of the US labor force.) But as the cost of communicating with the other side of the globe falls essentially to zero, as India becomes (by 2010) the country with the most English speakers in the world, and as developing nations continue to mint millions of extremely capable knowledge workers, the professional lives of people in the West will change dramatically. If number crunching, chart reading, and code writing can be done for a lot less overseas and delivered to clients instantly via fiber-optic cable, that's where the work will go.<br />
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But these gusts of comparative advantage are blowing away only certain kinds of white-collar jobs - those that can be reduced to a set of rules, routines, and instructions. That's why narrow left-brain work such as basic computer coding, accounting, legal research, and financial analysis is migrating across the oceans. But that's also why plenty of opportunities remain for people and companies doing less routine work - programmers who can design entire systems, accountants who serve as life planners, and bankers expert less in the intricacies of Excel than in the art of the deal. Now that foreigners can do left-brain work cheaper, we in the US must do right-brain work better.<br />
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Last century, machines proved they could replace human muscle. This century, technologies are proving they can outperform human left brains - they can execute sequential, reductive, computational work better, faster, and more accurately than even those with the highest IQs. (Just ask chess grandmaster Garry Kasparov.)<br />
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Consider jobs in financial services. Stockbrokers who merely execute transactions are history. Online trading services and market makers do such work far more efficiently. The brokers who survived have morphed from routine order-takers to less easily replicated advisers, who can understand a client's broader financial objectives and even the client's emotions and dreams.<br />
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Or take lawyers. Dozens of inexpensive information and advice services are reshaping law practice. At CompleteCase.com, you can get an uncontested divorce for $249, less than a 10th of the cost of a divorce lawyer. Meanwhile, the Web is cracking the information monopoly that has long been the source of many lawyers' high incomes and professional mystique. Go to USlegalforms.com and you can download - for the price of two movie tickets - fill-in-the-blank wills, contracts, and articles of incorporation that used to reside exclusively on lawyers' hard drives. Instead of hiring a lawyer for 10 hours to craft a contract, consumers can fill out the form themselves and hire a lawyer for one hour to look it over. Consequently, legal abilities that can't be digitized - convincing a jury or understanding the subtleties of a negotiation - become more valuable.<br />
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Even computer programmers may feel the pinch. "In the old days," legendary computer scientist Vernor Vinge has said, "anybody with even routine skills could get a job as a programmer. That isn't true anymore. The routine functions are increasingly being turned over to machines." The result: As the scut work gets offloaded, engineers will have to master different aptitudes, relying more on creativity than competence.<br />
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Any job that can be reduced to a set of rules is at risk. If a $500-a-month accountant in India doesn't swipe your accounting job, TurboTax will. Now that computers can emulate left-hemisphere skills, we'll have to rely ever more on our right hemispheres.<br />
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<b>Abundance</b><br />
Our left brains have made us rich. Powered by armies of Drucker's knowledge workers, the information economy has produced a standard of living that would have been unfathomable in our grandparents' youth. Their lives were defined by scarcity. Ours are shaped by abundance. Want evidence? Spend five minutes at Best Buy. Or look in your garage. Owning a car used to be a grand American aspiration. Today, there are more automobiles in the US than there are licensed drivers - which means that, on average, everybody who can drive has a car of their own. And if your garage is also piled with excess consumer goods, you're not alone. Self-storage - a business devoted to housing our extra crap - is now a $17 billion annual industry in the US, nearly double Hollywood's yearly box office take.<br />
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But abundance has produced an ironic result. The Information Age has unleashed a prosperity that in turn places a premium on less rational sensibilities - beauty, spirituality, emotion. For companies and entrepreneurs, it's no longer enough to create a product, a service, or an experience that's reasonably priced and adequately functional. In an age of abundance, consumers demand something more. Check out your bathroom. If you're like a few million Americans, you've got a Michael Graves toilet brush or a Karim Rashid trash can that you bought at Target. Try explaining a designer garbage pail to the left side of your brain! Or consider illumination. Electric lighting was rare a century ago, but now it's commonplace. Yet in the US, candles are a $2 billion a year business - for reasons that stretch beyond the logical need for luminosity to a prosperous country's more inchoate desire for pleasure and transcendence.<br />
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Liberated by this prosperity but not fulfilled by it, more people are searching for meaning. From the mainstream embrace of such once-exotic practices as yoga and meditation to the rise of spirituality in the workplace to the influence of evangelism in pop culture and politics, the quest for meaning and purpose has become an integral part of everyday life. And that will only intensify as the first children of abundance, the baby boomers, realize that they have more of their lives behind them than ahead. In both business and personal life, now that our left-brain needs have largely been sated, our right-brain yearnings will demand to be fed.<br />
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<b>As the forces</b> of Asia, automation, and abundance strengthen and accelerate, the curtain is rising on a new era, the Conceptual Age. If the Industrial Age was built on people's backs, and the Information Age on people's left hemispheres, the Conceptual Age is being built on people's right hemispheres. We've progressed from a society of farmers to a society of factory workers to a society of knowledge workers. And now we're progressing yet again - to a society of creators and empathizers, pattern recognizers, and meaning makers.<br />
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But let me be clear: The future is not some Manichaean landscape in which individuals are either left-brained and extinct or right-brained and ecstatic - a land in which millionaire yoga instructors drive BMWs and programmers scrub counters at Chick-fil-A. Logical, linear, analytic thinking remains indispensable. But it's no longer enough.<br />
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To flourish in this age, we'll need to supplement our well-developed high tech abilities with aptitudes that are "high concept" and "high touch." High concept involves the ability to create artistic and emotional beauty, to detect patterns and opportunities, to craft a satisfying narrative, and to come up with inventions the world didn't know it was missing. High touch involves the capacity to empathize, to understand the subtleties of human interaction, to find joy in one's self and to elicit it in others, and to stretch beyond the quotidian in pursuit of purpose and meaning.<br />
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Developing these high concept, high touch abilities won't be easy for everyone. For some, the prospect seems unattainable. Fear not (or at least fear less). The sorts of abilities that now matter most are fundamentally human attributes. After all, back on the savannah, our caveperson ancestors weren't plugging numbers into spreadsheets or debugging code. But they were telling stories, demonstrating empathy, and designing innovations. These abilities have always been part of what it means to be human. It's just that after a few generations in the Information Age, many of our high concept, high touch muscles have atrophied. The challenge is to work them back into shape.<br />
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Want to get ahead today? Forget what your parents told you. Instead, do something foreigners can't do cheaper. Something computers can't do faster. And something that fills one of the nonmaterial, transcendent desires of an abundant age. In other words, go right, young man and woman, go right.<br />
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<i>[via] Wired.com | Adapted from</i> A Whole New Mind: Moving from the Information Age to the Conceptual Age, <i>copyright by Daniel H. Pink, to be published in March by Riverhead Books. Printed with permission of the publisher.</i> <br />
<i>Contributing editor Daniel H. Pink</i> (dp@danpink.com) <i>wrote about Gross National Happiness in issue 12.12.</i>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0